The Authentic Manager
Almost everyone aspires to be promoted at work, however as we climb to the top of the ladder the number of people in whom we can confide and share grows smaller causing many executives to feel isolated and encounter difficulties when making decisions.
This difficulty originates from a fear of making the wrong decision. Executives expect to be perfect and never go wrong. They are constantly under the scrutiny of more senior executives, members of the Board or subordinate teams.
Executives who constantly feel the need to justify their worth to these groups will rarely be able to feel the self-esteem which is the authentic expression of their ability to rely on themselves and their own decision making.
How to become an Authentic Manager?
First, we must be well acquainted with ourselves, be aware and conscious of our ambitions, strengths and weaknesses in order to build our self-esteem, trust ourselves, and not worship other gods.
Often, when facing difficult decisions we trust someone we define as an 'authority', because it seems to us that he has broader knowledge and greater experience than we do.
On certain occasions we allow a consultant to assume such an Authority and to make the decision for us. In such cases, we achieve the opposite of what we intended: our self–esteem weakens and our dependency in the consultant increases.
When taking a consultant we should bear in mind that his role is to shed light on our situation so that we can see more clearly. When inspiration comes from a source other than ourselves, our creative ability weakens and we fail to achieve the results we anticipated.
Making a choice is crucial to the success of what we do. To act only on someone else's advice, merely because we see them as an authority, may be difficult to implement and we may even subconsciously fail it.
Success requires conviction which derives from being part of the decision making process and believing in it and in oneself, which in turn inspires creativity. These are the sources that empower us. Behavior deriving from such belief will be the easiest path, leading to better results.
It is important to bear in mind that fear impairs our inspiration. It prevents us from seeing all our options which in return brings us to resort to the same solution as always, as we believe it is the only way to achieve our goal. Fear of change leads us to a safe road, one we feel we can trust and have already experienced.
Taking the familiar road gives us a sense of control but the will for change leads us to an unknown path which we will walk safely once we trust and have faith in ourselves.
Our Relationship with Money
Each one of us conducts a daily relationship with money. We hope this relationship, like any other, will give us security and satisfaction.
We have already learned that, in emotional relationships, we can magnetize others if we are not dependent on them. The same is true with money. Our economic success will grow as we learn to free ourselves from our dependency on money and the difficulties and struggles associated with it.
If we lack money we work hard out of fear of not having enough, and if we have money we live in fear of losing it.
This grip money has on us intensifies when our self-esteem is low - we feel that money defines us which in return makes us anxious and becomes an obstacle to success.
Consciousness of Wealth and Abundance
Consciousness of wealth is the ability to free ourselves from our dependency on money. We feel all our emotional and material needs are satisfied.
Feeling free reduces our dependency and fear of losing, we venture to become bolder, take larger risks and increase our chances to succeed.
Why do we find it difficult to be conscious of wealth and independent?
Our beliefs regarding money, are often the result of our education, our parents' attitude to investments and financial risk, they influence the degree and nature of our relationship and dependency on money. We can assume that if we grew up with parents who were employees and lived on a limited budget then we too will believe in hard work, whereas, if our parents were ready to take financial risks it is likely that we will have a consciousness of wealth and be less dependent.
Our beliefs are at the basis of our relationship with money: positive beliefs will make it easier to generate the wanted results as opposed to negative thoughts that will interrupt the flow of wealth into our lives.
Beliefs can be identified by the thoughts that control us during the day: are they irritating thoughts accompanied by anxiety and effort or are they optimistic thoughts generated by healthy curiosity.
Identifying the beliefs that govern us is a meaningful step towards change.
Processes of consciousness can change our beliefs and enable us to enjoy rewarding and fruitful relationships.